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I hear what you're saying, but...

[She can't just brush off what Terra is saying here. Especially when what her friend has brought up is right. She can't let the past define her. But it's had such a large impact on her life, so many of her choices were made because of what happened years ago.

Farah broadcasts a sigh, a pause following as she finds the right response.] No, what you're saying is right. But what if... Terra this is going to sound stupid.

[But she's said plenty of stupid stuff today that's been embarrassing so what's one more thing on the pile.]

What if... Your past has made you who you are? How do we know if what we do is because it's what we want or if it's just making up for things we did, or just what we think we should do?

It doesn't sound stupid at all.

[It was a subtlety that Terra had found herself having difficulty grasping, as well— there were more discussions with Y'shtola than she could count where she had insisted that she didn't want to let her past impact her in any way, that she wanted to become someone who was as far from who she had been as possible. Y'shtola had been the one to teach her that her past had to shape her, but it didn't have to be the only thing.]

It's tricky, isn't it? The things that happen to us, the things that we do... they shape who we become, even if it's not pretty. But that's just a part of the whole. There's more to me than what I've done in the past, and I know that there's more to you, as well.

[She exhales, choosing her words carefully.]

Isn't making up for the things we've done a part of what we want, too? I don't think I'll ever stop trying to be better than I was— but a friend taught me that it was important not to let making up for the past be the only thing that drives us. We also have to look to the future, and think about the kind of world we want to live in, and do our part to make it happen.

[Terra might think for a moment that the connection ended as Farah doesn't respond right away. There's not even any fuzziness or any hint of emotion coming through. Something Terra said really grabbed Farah and now she's stuck thinking on it.

When Farah does at last reply her voice seems lighter, like a weight has been taken off of her.]

If I think about the future and the world I want to live in then I think about saving it, keeping it safe for everyone I love. So then I think about what have I done already to get there.

[And she's done a lot, even if what she has done came from her desire to make amends or didn't. The fact is she's still taken steps to bettering her world.]

Sometimes the past is... A lot to handle. But whatever my reason is or whatever is pushing me on, I'm making a difference. I think I've realised you can make up for the past and work for the future too. Those things don't have to be separate.

[The long silence concerns her, but when Farah responds once more, Terra smiles to herself— it's the very same truth that she herself has been trying to make peace with, a balance she never would have been able to find without the help of her friends.]

That's exactly right.

[It doesn't have to be one or the other.]

You're making a difference, whatever inspired you to do so. Y'shtola told me that my past would 'define me always' at a time when I had worries just like yours— but she also helped me to learn that it's much more complicated than that, and who I choose to be now, going forward, defines me just as much. It's the same for you. Our pasts will always be a part of us, but we don't have to let ourselves be shackled.

So it's sort of like saying... Our pasts are written in stone, but we can still keep writing out new stuff that defines us. Or something like that.

[There's a warmth coming through the connection now, something different from the awkward fuzziness and the embarrassed feelings from before.]

We have a long way to go moving forward, but that just gives us more time to learn more about ourselves and... Become who we really want to be. [There's a deep sigh that follows, as though Farah has been holding her breath in for most of the conversation.] You know, I think your friend Y'shtola would make an amazing teacher. And you as well Terra.

I like the sound of that— yes, that's just it.

[She's glad that Farah seems to be heartened by their conversation, and she can feel the tension ease as her friend lets out that long sigh.]

You think so? Y'shtola, of course, she would be wonderful at it, but— I don't know very much about the world.

[This one or any other, though she's always learning.]

I'm just happy to share the parts I have come to understand.

Well I'm glad that you could share some of those parts with me today. Maybe you don't have a future in teaching, but still. I really appreciate it.

[And with that warmth from before? It seems to grow and spread through the connection, as though Farah really is sending her heartfelt thanks straight over to Terra.]

... This all got a little heavy didn't it? [Now it's all said and done, given how things started off? She has to laugh, just a little. Just the whole spectrum of emotions she's gone through in the space of this talk is enough to get her smiling now.]

I don't think that's such a bad thing.

[There's a pulse of warmth across their connection from Terra's end as well, a moment of appreciation as well as an extension of solidarity, support. Farah may not have meant to reach out to her, but maybe something greater than them knew that Terra would be the right person for her to talk to.]

It sounds to me like you needed to get all of that off your chest. I'm happy to listen anytime, you know— you don't have to wait for the crystals to malfunction.

[She's definitely teasing, but the offer is certainly genuine.]

It's... Not something I usually bother people with. If this didn't happen then I'd keep it to myself.

[Which is a very healthy and proven coping strategy for dealing with problems, totally.

She appreciates that teasing! And all that Terra has done for her right now. There's a soft sigh before she responds.]

I'll keep that in mind. Next time I'll be more careful about what I'm saying when the crystals aren't behaving though, just in case. [no more "inside" stuff for her after today!!]

Well... you don't have to do that. Just remember that, okay?

[She won't push, because of course, ultimately it's up to Farah what she'd like to share— but Terra has plenty of her own troubles that are difficult to share with others. She knows just how heavily those things can weigh on you. Talking... talking helps.]

Probably a good idea, though. Maybe check to make sure you've reached the right person first, just in case.

I think I'll start everything off with a 'hey' and a 'how are you' before I get into anything important. If the worst I can do is ask someone random how they're doing? I'll be okay.

[If anything like that she might end up making a new friend. Or just annoying a dude- But that's still better than airing anything private out.]

... But yeah, I will remember. I'm not going to forget this. [... But.] If I do then please remind me, okay? [Some nights it's just. Easier to sit with her thoughts. Though she will absolutely remember as best she can that Terra has her back with these things.]

That sounds like a good plan.

[She laughs warmly, and she's glad that if Farah had to make this particular mistake with anyone, it had been a friend.]

... I will. I promise you that.

[That's what friends are for, isn't it?]

You can count on me, Farah.

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